It's the small things...

You can't control most of the big things. Focus on the small things. Here's one I posted on before. 

I still run a private student group from my days as a grad student at Berkeley. It's now at 1600 members and helped dozens get work. I recently gave some advice to a former student of mine, and she shared this with the group. Reposted with her permission. 

"A Lesson in Gratitude:
I recently interviewed for a coordinator position that a friend of mine put me up for at a big name Animation Company. The interviewer and I immediately hit it off and had great chemistry. It was probably one of the best interviews I’ve ever had to be honest. She let me know that she would call the next day, after the last interview, to inform candidates of her decision.First thing the next morning I sent out a thank you email (since the time frame didn’t allow for a hand written card).Two days go by and I finally hear back – the position went to the roommate of the individual who currently held the coordinator spot.

After hearing about the interview, George encouraged me to reach back out and congratulate the interviewer as well as the individual who was offered the position. With a touch of apprehension I sent a second email thanking the interviewer for the opportunity to meet with her and congratulating her on choosing a very talented new coordinator (who I referenced by name since she worked with me at my current company and we knew each other). To my surprise, the interviewer got back to me right away. She said she thought I was an incredible candidate and that the decision was very difficult. She then asked me to keep in touch and even followed up by cc’ing me on an email to a recruiter that said “Can you follow up with her. I would love if she could be considered for other open positions that you have. She is amazing.”

While this may not turn into a job, per George’s advice, I was able to turn a perceived loss into a gained connection by simply being a good sport. Not only does this make you seem like someone who is good to work with, but it shows that the rejection doesn’t phase because you are secure in yourself and your career. Desperation seems to permeate in this industry so if you can be confident enough in yourself to recognize and appreciate the talents of others while stomaching rejection gracefully it says a lot about your character. Of course, this is something I am still in the process of learning but being grateful is honestly a great way to live and to make new friends. Whether I get the job or not doesn’t matter as much as forming a healthy relationship and establishing integrity — a true long term investment and goal. George couldn’t seem to emphasize enough how many opportunities they had received out of rejections. If you don’t get it the first time yet you graciously accept the loss you will be remembered and maybe, just maybe, your rejection will turn into another opportunity down the road.

TL;DR: Be gracious about rejection, always follow up with interviewers, losses can be turned into gains."

Okay, I had to google what TL;DR: meant, but the same lessons have long worked in Hollywood.